In 2018 I returned to work from maternity leave and had to restart my career all over again. But 2018 was also the year where I really struggled health wise with a fractured toe, torn ligament and prolapsed disc. It didn’t help that Saitaomei was only one year old.
2019, I emerged from the dark days of bad health and started on a new project which would then consume my life for the next 4 years. There was no work life balance. I hardly saw the kids. I worked really long hours and for three years took not a single day of annual leave. It was an exhilarating, draining and traumatic four years of tremendous highs and lows.
This project was completely successfully. It was a once in a lifetime project everyone said. Monumental reform. I remember a higher up saying to us ‘we will be on the right side of history’. I think he is right but time will tell.
Leading the successful delivery of this project allowed me to carve a name for myself, I was suddenly the ‘leading subject matter expert’ in the State, it allowed me to rebuild my career and I became sought after. I was offered a job at a much higher pay, I took it and I left my sector, my dream job for this new career.
I’m settling well into my new role. I think I may do well in this new industry. But at what expense ?
My four years of toil and endless work, meant that I neglected my family, my children. I never gave them the time and the education they needed to reach their full potential, I didn’t give them the support they needed for these important foundational years.
Is it too late I wonder ? Is it too late for me to repent for my years of neglect ? Did I make the wrong choice ? Is it true that women really can’t have it all? We can’t build a successful career and have a happy healthy family at the same time?
I don’t know whether the sacrifice was worth it. But I know I never want to make the same sacrifice and mistakes again.