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Naughty little papa

I think all papas need a little daughter to tease and make fun of. I feel sorry for all the long suffering daughters.

๐Ÿง’๐Ÿป: Papa, my baby (Saitaomei who she has tucked up with blankets) is sleeping in her crib, so you have to be quiet and not wake up my baby ok?

๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐Ÿป: I want to wake up the baby! I’m going to go wake up ! wake up ! wake up ! grrrrrr!!!!

๐Ÿง’๐Ÿป : (comes running to me) mummy! What am I going to do with that naughty little papa! He’s going to wake up the baby! I think I have to teach him a lesson …

๐Ÿง’๐Ÿป๏ผš(runs to papa) papa! I’m going to teach you a lesson ok? You have to be quiet and don’t wake up my baby ok? You have to promise.

๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐Ÿป: I promise to wake up the baby.

๐Ÿง’๐Ÿป: No! You have to promise not to wake up the baby! I’m teaching you a lesson ok?

๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐Ÿป: I promise to wake up the baby ! I will go grrrrrrrrrr…

๐Ÿง’๐Ÿป: MUMMY! Papa is so naughty ! What am I going to do with him ?!!


Ah ma mentioned that I haven’t been baking for a long time, a sure sign that work has been manic. Even on days when I’m working from home, meetings stretch forever without a break, R gets home and dinner is not started, so he heats up the leftovers himself. My parents are doing lots of overtime care taking too, and we are not getting enough rest so we are taking ages to recover and can’t seem to get well.

I know I’m getting short tempered and wrecked with guilt. But the work can’t stop. I actually find myself missing the early COVID days when things were quiet and I could cook meals for the family and have my daily exercise session.

Pao de Queijo

But I had a restful Sunday for a change and managed to bake some Brazilian cheese puffs. They are really nice fresh out of the oven and very cute too.

Unfortunately the weekend went by too quick and it’s back to the daily grind tomorrow ๐Ÿ˜”. I really need a holiday but I think a real holiday is very very far away! Thank heavens most of my family is near so I never feel lonely or miss them too much. The kids tire me out but I have to admit, they brighten my life so much and remind me time and again that life is good and I’m very lucky.


Papa R’s birthday

We celebrated R’s birthday earlier this month, wow that feels like ages ago, the days have really flown by.

Poor R, because I’ve been sick and haven’t been out except for short stints to the supermarkets, he didn’t get any birthday presents this year! Even his cake was homemade. But I put in a lot of effort ok, it was a tiramisu Mille crepe cake which took ages in front of the stove and required great patience, of which I have none.

Sigh these two. Best friends. So close they need to hold hands during meals ๐Ÿ˜…. She is thoroughly spoilt by Gung Gung and knows it too.

Work has really been ramping up and I’m working longer and longer hours. Working from home also means I never clock off which is really bad for the kids. I felt so bad yesterday when I had to ask ah ma to pick up Saitaoha because she kept disrupting my meeting. Poor girl was in tears and said ‘but I want to stay with you!’

There’s the mum guilt which is ever present, guilty for tending too much to Saitaomei and neglecting Saitaoha, guilty for being impatient and cross with the both of them because I’m in the middle of work or just exhausted. There’s also daughter guilt, my parents can’t rest when I’m working, they’re not well too so I’m all round making everyone suffer because of my work. I really don’t know whether this is worth it.

As usual the whole household is down with illness. The cycle never ends, and you don’t even know who is patient zero anymore. Last night I even hung an extra set of pjs in the bathroom and put an empty basin next to my bed in case Mei threw up again.

Luckily my dark moments never last long because they are just too cute.

The other day Saitaoha asked me to play with her because ‘I has no one to play with’. I said ‘how about Xiu Xiu (her toy rabbit’?’ She gave me this incredulous look and said ‘but she’s a doll mummy ๐Ÿ™„.’ Oops.

Happy Mother’s Day

Daitaoha 4 years 2 months old

I had one of the best Mother’s Day yet! I was a bit worried that it wouldn’t be a good one because I’ve been having bad migraines so I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to cook Mother’s Day dinner for Ah Ma. But it all cleared up today and I’m feeling much better!

Saitaomei didn’t get the memo that it was Mother’s Day though and kept getting up and whining throughout the night. I ended up sleeping in because I was so knackered, but R woke me up with a coffee that he made for me! What a nice way to wake up.

We had a quiet day at home, did some homework with Saitaoha and realised that I’m not a very good teacher. I knew I wasn’t teaching her in the right way and was being way too impatient, but frustration got in the way and I ended up sending her to sleep before trying again after her nap. Poor girl is not well and has a bad cough. I know that this will eventually spread through the family and I will be down in the dumps again sigh.

Hand made flowers and a sweet card

Back to better things! I received a lovely present from R, necklace and earrings and Saitaoha had already given me my hand drawn card as early as last week haha. Both girls gave me big hugs and wished me Happy Mother’s Day, Saitaomei knew it was an occasion of some sort and kept wishing me happy birthday too haha.

Chirashi for dinner

HC treated us to sashimi for dinner and we had yummy bowls of chirashi for dinner. It was sooo delicious and worth skipping meals the whole day (not intentional).

I think Ah Ma liked our present of an iPad mini, she is a gadget fiend and very tech savvy. I know some thing Mother’s Day is overhyped but I personally love it that there’s a special day in the year where we can show gratitude and love towards our Ah Ma. I hope Ah Ma felt loved and knows that we appreciate her a lot.

R and I have had our ups and downs over the years but surprisingly COVID has been a good time for us because we are standing strong together during tough times and also enjoying more time together and with the kids.

Today was another one of those days when I felt really contented with my loved ones and my life in general.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the wonderful mothers that I know and especially to my super Ah Ma/Mah Mah ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•.

Big people don’t cry

Saitaoha: Mummy why are you crying?

Me: Mummy’s mah mah passed away.

Saitaoha: Is it my mah mah died? ๐Ÿ˜ข

Me: No, not your mah mah, mummy’s mah mah.

Saitaoha: Mummy, big people don’t cry.

Me: Ok, give me a hug.

Saitaoha: Mummy is it you cry because your mah mah died ?

Me: Yes.

Saitaoha: How did she die? Is it like Elsa? Is it she is in bed?

Me: Yes. She closed her eyes and went to sleep.

Saitaoha: Is she better now?

Me: Yes. She is better now.

A rant

The problem with working from home is your home is now your workplace, to me that means I can never clock off work, hence my sending off of a briefing note at 10.30pm! Luckily the girls were good tonight and happy to stay by my side, play with each other, watch videos and eat snacks.

R still isn’t well which is terribly worrying. I’ve never seen him take that long to throw off a cold or flu, but then I also feel like throttling him when I think of him never resting when he should, painting the kids cubby house when the wind was howling, and just generally dismissive of his own illness. He’s so stubborn and freaking set in his principles and beliefs that I feel like nothing but a giant wake up call will shake him up. But I don’t want that wake up call to be Covid-19 or a life threatening illness!

When this is all over, and I pray that this nightmare is over soon, I will find the right time to talk to him properly and point out that as a son, husband and most importantly, a father, sometimes you have to put others over yourself. It’s not just about you being sick, it means the kids get sick, your parents, my parents get sick, and they are way more vulnerable compared to your ‘I can will myself out of this illness’ self. You have responsibilities now that are beyond just you, don’t regret this nonchalant attitude when it’s all too late.

Gosh I can’t wait for life to get back to normal. It’s only been a couple of weeks or not even that at best, but I’m already mourning our past life. I’ve never been much of a social butterfly, but I mostly miss bringing the kids out, I wish the girls could go to school, which truly is the best environment for them to thrive and grow. I wish I didn’t worry every time R coughs, I wish I didn’t feel like I’m endangering my parents every time I step into their house or entrust the kids to them. I miss going for walks with my sister during lunch hours. I miss the interaction at work, I think I get more work done at home beside there is a lot less chit chat, but the chit chat and camaraderie also forms the best policies and ideas.

And there’s more months of this to go? At the end of the day I will do whatever it takes to keep the family safe and healthy, but I really feel tired and sad about 2020 and the world that we have become.

Last day

Even though I’ve been complaining and wishing for the holiday to end, now that we’re flying out tomorrow, I can’t help but wish we could rewind back to the start of the holiday again!

The decorating of the house, buying and snacking of CNY treats, waiting for the stroke of midnight, letting off firecrackers and admiring the fireworks circling the smoky night sky.

There’s too much overeating. Always too much food.

But local food is so delicious. Saitaomei enjoyed her daily breakfast of kolo mee very much! She even picked up fallen strands of kolo mee from her skirt and ate them, ๅฎๅฏๆ€้”™ไธๅฏๆ”พ่ฟ‡๐Ÿ˜….

I was glad when we strayed from our daily kolo mee and had yummy kueh chap instead.

Foochow cha ju mein, it’s not my favourite but I wanted to taste it so I can try to recreate the flavours back home.

The Hakka association annual CNY dinner which turned out much more enjoyable than I thought it would be. Thankfully my poor sisters’ families came along in a show of support, otherwise it would be a dull night. I only wish my brother had not flown home in the morning, as usual, I didn’t get to spend enough time with him.

The kids had so much fun at the playground during my birthday. I believe it was one of the highlights of their trip.

Mei mei and papa ๐Ÿฅฐ.

And just like that our Chinese New Year holiday is over!


From this ….

To this!

Father in law spent all morning and afternoon prepping our reunion dinner. This is already a very restrained version of reunion dinner since none of R’s sisters are back, but we hardly made a dent and there’s really ้ผ ๅนดๆœ‰ไฝ™.

The cousins during our family’s early reunion dinner. Saitaomei did not like wearing her qipao at all.

Saitaoha and LG at AEON mall.

They had lots of cute decorations there so I couldn’t resist asking Saitaoha to pose.

My family ๐Ÿ’•.

Kids having fun nomming on bread during the car ride home.

R and said this is our worst nightmare, 8 kids!

Happy ้™คๅค•ๅคœ everyone ๐Ÿ˜ƒ.

I hope the Year of the Rat is when the kids and I become stronger and build up our immune system against all the bugs and viruses out there.

Saitaoha is sick again and I’m totally devastated about it ๐Ÿ˜ญ. Poor kid just doesn’t get a break, sick three days into her holiday, with all the other kids around as well, there’s the worry that they will catch her bug too and their holiday (as well as my siblings’ holiday) will be ruined as well. I know I’m being a worry wart but these things keep me awake at night. The lack of quality sleep from constantly crying and stirring kids is also making me a kill joy, I am a snarky bear to be around with and I don’t blame others from wanting to keep far far away.

Happier times of the sisters and my kids colouring together. That’s the best part of family holidays.

Let’s hope we all huat this year! Be it in health, wealth or luck.

Poor girl, she looks so worn out here. I’m glad we got to go for a spin at my favourite Kenyalang, I love this place.

All the Chinese New Year stalls were out but it felt very quiet this year.

I never get to spend enough time with my dear brother when he’s back, so I treasure all our snippets of conversation where I get a glimpse of his life in US. Every time I see him I selfishly wish he lives nearer to us. I wish my parents had their son with them. But he’s happy and that’s all that matters.

Roadside burger for supper last night, we can barely stuff anything into our bursting bellies anymore but I think my siblings did it for me.

It was nostalgic but as usual, after we devoured it, there was that tinge of regret.

We are waiting for R and my in laws to pick us up, my stint at home with my family is over and I’m already sad.

CNY holiday begins

Saitaomei was excited to be going on a holiday!

But her jeje enjoyed it the most, she adores her cousins and yee yees, so getting to travel with them was heaven for her.

This time I didn’t hesitate to get my holiday drink of Starbucks matcha latte, I know the opportunity to indulge is far and few in between so better get it while I can. I don’t even like it that much anymore but I like it that it symbolises being on a holiday.

The kids trying out their CNY costumes before the holiday. So cute hehe.

My first attempt at making kuih lapis, I quite enjoyed the process and would like to try other flavours. The only thing is now that I know the crazy amount of egg yolks, sugar and butter that goes into this cake I’m not sure I can encourage any of my loved ones to eat it!

I seriously don’t know where she learned to pose like that!

Where did she get this from? YouTube videos? This was at our favourite Spring, love it that the shopping centre is quiet even nearing the festive season.

It’s nice to be home and lovely hanging out with the family, I’m looking forward to seeing my brother again too. But I always feel bad whenever I see how stress my parents become when we’re over. It’s really tough maintaining two households and because they are away from Kuching for so long (looking after my kids *gulp*) everything is broken down or malfunctioning, supplies need replenishing and multiple errands are awaiting. As visitors of the house, we don’t know how to fix anything or get around and rely on my parents for everything. Travelling around in a big group logistics wise is challenging too and everything falls to them as the hosts when they are hardly in the country themselves. It’s really quite difficult and they could just have the devil may care attitude but my parents are just not like that, they take care of all of us and over worry and fret about our comfort too much. It’s stressful for them, and stressful for us too.

I’m hoping it gets easier once I move out because I know my little ones make everything all the more challenging. I want my parents to have a holiday too!

Deck the halls with holly

The Christmas holidays have been nothing short of glorious. It’s been relaxing, fun and filled with family activities. The kids are having the best time ever because they get to hang out with their favourite cousins and Yee yees.

I finally baked the turkey which was brined for two days in the fridge.

Turkey goes in the oven.


The breast could be more moist but otherwise it was pretty good! I even made the gravy from the drippings and ah pa approved.

We had such a good Christmas spread!

Everything tasted delicious ๐Ÿ˜‹.

My Christmas log cake which was actually a chocolate Swiss roll in disguise. Cheese and crackers after dinner was pretty fabulous too.

Another look at the Christmas cake.

On Christmas Eve Saitaoha accompanied me to work for the first time. She was very excited and thrilled.

Look at that happy smile.

I think she really enjoyed herself that day.

Cousins enjoying Christmas lunch. They performed for us a Christmas song afterwards, cuteness overload.

We went for a picnic with our new friends, R and I are trying to expand our social circle.

It was a lovely day by the river, Saitaomei and Saitaoha had lots of fun running around in the grass. On days like these you are reminded how nice it is to live in Perth with its blue skies and sunny weather.

The grandchildren really enjoyed their Christmas gift from Gung Gung Mah Mah! I wish it could withstand adult weight, would have loved to go down the slide.

Celebrated my sister’s birthday, the children gave her flowers.

We brought two of them into the city today, Saitaoha is always happy when her cousins are around. She cries when they won’t hold her hand, such a silly billy.

Finally treated my parents to lunch of Bari Uma ramen. My father keeps paying for our meals, it was great that I could finally treat them to a meal. We had a fun day out in the city!

I think I will be sad when the holidays are over, and they almost are, but this time I don’t feel the blues as much because we’re going back to Kuching for Chinese New Year soon! Wah December- January really are the best months of the year.

July 2020