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Happy Mother’s Day

Daitaoha 4 years 2 months old

I had one of the best Mother’s Day yet! I was a bit worried that it wouldn’t be a good one because I’ve been having bad migraines so I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to cook Mother’s Day dinner for Ah Ma. But it all cleared up today and I’m feeling much better!

Saitaomei didn’t get the memo that it was Mother’s Day though and kept getting up and whining throughout the night. I ended up sleeping in because I was so knackered, but R woke me up with a coffee that he made for me! What a nice way to wake up.

We had a quiet day at home, did some homework with Saitaoha and realised that I’m not a very good teacher. I knew I wasn’t teaching her in the right way and was being way too impatient, but frustration got in the way and I ended up sending her to sleep before trying again after her nap. Poor girl is not well and has a bad cough. I know that this will eventually spread through the family and I will be down in the dumps again sigh.

Hand made flowers and a sweet card

Back to better things! I received a lovely present from R, necklace and earrings and Saitaoha had already given me my hand drawn card as early as last week haha. Both girls gave me big hugs and wished me Happy Mother’s Day, Saitaomei knew it was an occasion of some sort and kept wishing me happy birthday too haha.

Chirashi for dinner

HC treated us to sashimi for dinner and we had yummy bowls of chirashi for dinner. It was sooo delicious and worth skipping meals the whole day (not intentional).

I think Ah Ma liked our present of an iPad mini, she is a gadget fiend and very tech savvy. I know some thing Mother’s Day is overhyped but I personally love it that there’s a special day in the year where we can show gratitude and love towards our Ah Ma. I hope Ah Ma felt loved and knows that we appreciate her a lot.

R and I have had our ups and downs over the years but surprisingly COVID has been a good time for us because we are standing strong together during tough times and also enjoying more time together and with the kids.

Today was another one of those days when I felt really contented with my loved ones and my life in general.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the wonderful mothers that I know and especially to my super Ah Ma/Mah Mah πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•.

Covid Easter

Xiu xiu and Easter

It was a very different Easter holiday. We should have been in Adelaide with the in laws and R’s family, but instead we spent most of Easter holed up at home with the kids.

Saitaoha and Saitaomei painting Easter bunnies

Saitaoha and Saitaomei are lucky to have aunties that dote on them a lot and are always buying them things to play with. They enjoyed painting these bunnies so much that I went out to buy watercolours for them to paint more in the future.

Look of concentration
Smile Saitaomei and she gives me a grimace 😬
Easter egg hunting
They had lots of fun
Dalgona coffee

I jumped on the Dalgona coffee bandwagon and made a few glasses for ah ma, R and myself. Probably won’t have it again but it was interesting and worth a try.

We also finally built the cubby house! It took a lot longer than expected because we painted it and all, R is a perfectionist when it comes to things like that but I think the final product was pretty.

Icecream seller

My little ahjummas selling their wares. I hope they have fun in this house for years to come. Papa did lights for them and everything.

Ah ma made lek tau suan which was so comforting and good, especially with yew char kueh!

Made these salmon and sweet potato patties but the kids didn’t like them! Being at home so much makes my hands itch to cook and bake more but we have too much food at home so ah ma has forbidden me to cook anymore. Sigh.

I had to stop by the office so we brought the kids out for a drive. Poor isolated babies were like country bumpkins and wowing are all the lights and buildings. We must make an effort to bring them out for a drive and see the outdoors now and then.

So it was a very different sort of Easter, but I still enjoyed not having to think about work and being able to just spend time with the family.



From this ….

To this!

Father in law spent all morning and afternoon prepping our reunion dinner. This is already a very restrained version of reunion dinner since none of R’s sisters are back, but we hardly made a dent and there’s really ιΌ εΉ΄ζœ‰δ½™.

The cousins during our family’s early reunion dinner. Saitaomei did not like wearing her qipao at all.

Saitaoha and LG at AEON mall.

They had lots of cute decorations there so I couldn’t resist asking Saitaoha to pose.

My family πŸ’•.

Kids having fun nomming on bread during the car ride home.

R and said this is our worst nightmare, 8 kids!

Happy ι™€ε€•ε€œ everyone πŸ˜ƒ.

Farewell 2019 Hello 2020

I was trying to reflect on my 2019 when I realised that I couldn’t remember anything. Life went by in a blur and I was constantly chasing my tail, my memories are hazy and all I recall is the neverending cycle of the kids and myself being sick and getting well again. This is the reason why I have persisted in keeping a diary or blog of some sorts over the years, even when my brain fails me, my hastily jotted words bring me back my past memories and recollections.

I started this blog in 2009, exactly ten years ago! According to my posts, ten years ago was when I met R which I believe was the turning point and next stage of my life. In 2009 I secured permanency at a position which I then thought was a dream job. It wasn’t the dream job I envisaged but I learned a lot and it was definitely a stepping stone to where I am now in my career.

Fast forward ten years, 2019 was another turning point in my career. I went back to a field that I worked in ten years ago! Only this time it was a hundred times more challenging, not just because of the work context itself, but mostly because of difficult working relationships. Office politics dominated the second half of the year and caused me a lot of angst and grief. I wasn’t quite sure how to deal with it and there was the frequent temptation to run away. Luckily I didn’t, instead, I had some of the most difficult work conversations and hard talks of my career. Some were futile but there was also the pivotal moment where I forced my hand and difficult decisions were made. I am not proud of it but I am glad I didn’t back down. 2020 will be the biggest career challenge yet, it’s a make or break year and will define the next stage of my career. However unlike the past decade, work won’t be the dominating factor in my life (I hope!), my family still comes first and that I hope will help keep the stress at bay.

2019 was a really tough year for relationships. Work relationships were tricky and heartwarming at the same time. I enjoyed reconnecting with my old colleagues and working with them again. But some work relationships were challenging and downright horrible. Marriage wise, it’s been ten years since I first met R and we starting going out, six years of marriage. It all sounds very long but if you think about it, it’s not that long in one’s lifespan. You would think after ten years we would have our relationship dynamics down to pat and our marriage would be smooth sailing. The truth is it’s been a rocky couple of years and in 2019 we had some rough patches but also happy moments. I can’t deny that there were days when I tore my hair out and felt our relationship wasn’t worth the trouble or effort. Ten years and I still find it difficult to understand how and why he sometimes acts the way he does, and to be fair, I am sure he struggles with me as well. I wish I could be like other Instagram couples where their values, principles and lifestyles align and all looks peachy and rosy. I wish our marriage was that easy but it’s not. A lot of it is about tolerance, compromise, patience and understanding. With the arrival of kids our social life is pretty much nil, we find it hard to find time to go out on couple dates let alone go out with friends without the kids in tow. But we’ve made some changes to that and are trying to expand our social circle. I truly hope 2020 can be a turning point in our marriage where we can find a comfortable rhythm again.

The kids and their development has been the highlight of the year and I believe that will be the case for me every year. Saitaomei is at her cutest stage and is learning new things everyday. She has a strong and independent personality and is quite different to her sister who is sensitive and clingy. She’s a lot easier to take care of now that she has turned two, it’s less physical but more about mental development now and I will have to pay more attention to her cognitive skills including instilling the right values and morals. Saitaoha had a big year, she started her 3 year old pre kindy at our neighbourhood school and will be continuing with her 4 year old pre kindy in 2020. I am so thankful that she really really loves school and has thrived in the warm and fun learning environment. She makes me laugh all the time with her funny comments and stories. She also constantly surprises me at how thoughtful and sweet she can be. She has it tough in that I constantly expect too much from her as the ‘big sister’, it’s a constant struggle for me to remind myself that she’s only three and a small kid, I shouldn’t be putting all the expectations on her just because she is the older child.

Health wise it’s been a good and bad year. Good in that my prolapsed discs have miraculously regressed, bad in that I probably celebrated too much by not exercising, eating badly and irregularly and therefore succumbing to every minor illness under the sun. My immune system is at an all time low and the kids and I were sick A LOT in 2019, I developed bronchitis for the first time ever and had every viral illness going around the daycare. It really was very depressing because I was constantly worried about the poor sick kids, my parents who also caught our illnesses, I missed work or attended work whilst battling embarrassing coughing fits, the kids had coughing and throwing up sessions and boy did I do a lot of laundry runs in 2019.

I say this every year but really it’s been ten years since I took the plunge and really embarked on a weight loss and exercise lifestyle. Can I please just do it this year? It’s embarrassing but I really need to gain my health back! For myself and for the kids too.

2019 was my year of recovery after the bleak 2018, I made small gains in life and slowly regained some of that lost confidence. There are still days when I trudge into my house and look at the mess and pigsty that I live in and think ‘what the hell am I doing?!’, but I have some hope in regaining some stability from the chaos of mummyhood that I have struggled with post kids. Maybe 2020 will be the year where I find myself and regain confidence to become a better mummy, wife, daughter, sister and friend. Fingers crossed🀞🏻. Happy New Year everyone!

Deck the halls with holly

The Christmas holidays have been nothing short of glorious. It’s been relaxing, fun and filled with family activities. The kids are having the best time ever because they get to hang out with their favourite cousins and Yee yees.

I finally baked the turkey which was brined for two days in the fridge.

Turkey goes in the oven.


The breast could be more moist but otherwise it was pretty good! I even made the gravy from the drippings and ah pa approved.

We had such a good Christmas spread!

Everything tasted delicious πŸ˜‹.

My Christmas log cake which was actually a chocolate Swiss roll in disguise. Cheese and crackers after dinner was pretty fabulous too.

Another look at the Christmas cake.

On Christmas Eve Saitaoha accompanied me to work for the first time. She was very excited and thrilled.

Look at that happy smile.

I think she really enjoyed herself that day.

Cousins enjoying Christmas lunch. They performed for us a Christmas song afterwards, cuteness overload.

We went for a picnic with our new friends, R and I are trying to expand our social circle.

It was a lovely day by the river, Saitaomei and Saitaoha had lots of fun running around in the grass. On days like these you are reminded how nice it is to live in Perth with its blue skies and sunny weather.

The grandchildren really enjoyed their Christmas gift from Gung Gung Mah Mah! I wish it could withstand adult weight, would have loved to go down the slide.

Celebrated my sister’s birthday, the children gave her flowers.

We brought two of them into the city today, Saitaoha is always happy when her cousins are around. She cries when they won’t hold her hand, such a silly billy.

Finally treated my parents to lunch of Bari Uma ramen. My father keeps paying for our meals, it was great that I could finally treat them to a meal. We had a fun day out in the city!

I think I will be sad when the holidays are over, and they almost are, but this time I don’t feel the blues as much because we’re going back to Kuching for Chinese New Year soon! Wah December- January really are the best months of the year.

Saitaoha’s 3 yr pre kindy graduation

I attended Saitaoha’s three year pre kindy graduation event today, it was informal, casual and intimate. The little kids were all so cute and pleased that their parents were in the room.

I’m really glad my mother encouraged me to take time off work to go, she would have been the only kid without her mummy if I didn’t go, and I’m glad I didn’t miss this milestone.

Poor girl wasn’t her usual active and bubbly self, she kept to herself and had a serious expression throughout. The virus really got to her poor child, luckily both of us didn’t have any coughing fits during the event!

She loves school so much and you can understand why when you see how much love and care the teachers and school put into creating a fun, safe and warm environment for the kids to thrive.

Happy with the scented gingerbread man that my lovely colleague bought for her.

Still praying that we all have a full recovery soon, I am really suffering at work!

Happy birthday Ah Ma

It’s Ah Ma’s birthday today. We celebrated her birthday in our usual family fashion, with lots of yummy food and cake πŸŽ‚. I like this photo of Ah Ma and Ah Pa because they both look happy. Ah pa was playing the birthday song on his guitar while the rest of us sang along.

Us daughters tried to find our own ways to tell Ah Ma how much we love her and appreciate her. I hope she felt it today and everyday because she really is a super ah ma and worries about us and tends to us like a mother hen everyday despite our mature age. I am in my thirties and my ah ma still tells me to message her when I’m on my way home so she can fry my favourite rempah stuffed fish so it’s piping hot and ready the moment I step into the house. She then tells me to eat up all the fish and that she’s not hungry and likes to eat fish bones πŸ™„.

Her love for her grandchildren has no bounds and I’m so glad that they love her back immensely. Mah mah is Saitaoha’s best friend and favourite person πŸ₯°.

Happy birthday Ah Ma, I hope you had a lovely day with many more wonderful birthdays to come.

May 2020