Archive for August 18th, 2018

Family home

For the most part of the year, whenever we’ve had spare time (haha), we’ve been focused on DIY projects or work around the house. Sometimes I think we’re putting too much effort and money in this house which to me is just a temporary home until we build our dream home. R thinks otherwise, he’s always liked the foundations of this temporary home of ours, and thinks we might be here for a while yet, so may as well refurbish it.

I told him last night that no matter how much we refurbish the house, including a whole bathroom and kitchen rehaul which is on the cards (when we can find money and time for it), it will never be the dream home that I’m looking for.

He thinks that it’s ok, we can always have a dream home when the kids have grown up, because the ‘golden time’ for a couple (after marriage) is when you retire and your kids are independent and move out. I don’t disagree with that, except my golden time is when my kids are with me, when our family is growing up and growing old together. So my dream home is not my retirement/eventual home, but rather my family home.

We moved into our family home in Kuching when I was 4-5 years old. My parents built it from scratch and I’ve always loved our family home with it’s large garden, tall ceilings and spacious rooms. I spent a very happy childhood and my teenage years in this happy home before eventually moving to Perth for studies. I guess I’m trying to recreate a family home in Perth for my family, not just my children but also for my parents. It might be a while away but I believe we will get there in the end.

My parents have also had their Australian permanent residency approved. It’s such a relief, back then, it felt like a lot of paperwork, waiting and rushing back and forth. The process felt a lot more stressful than it should have been because we were juggling with a newborn then. Anyway, I’m glad it’s over now and was surprisingly a short wait in the end, a mere 7-8 months from application to approval! It means a lot to me because this guarantees a back up plan and eventual home for my parents, and allows us to look after them in their old age.

Life tests us and throws us curveballs, but we get there in the end. For that, I am thankful.

August 2018