Can I hit the restart button?

I thought I would spend my maternity leave having quality time with Saitaoha and Saitaomei. Instead I have been spending all my time dealing with Saitaoha’s terrible two tantrums. She throws a tanty at least once or twice a day and is just impossible. Most of the time she works herself up into this sobbing, shrieking mess and doesn’t even remember why she got upset in the first place.

Even though I don’t know whether any of this gets through to her, I’ve been putting her in the naughty corner, telling her I would come back when she’s stopped crying and has calmed down. It’s difficult to stay consistent because sometimes when she’s stopped, the sight of me sets her off again! Then it’s mummy mummy mummy…

When the tantrum is over, I speak to her firmly and tell her that crying won’t get her anything and she needs to ask properly. Who knows whether she understands? 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I look at old photos and videos of Saitaoha and miss the little girl who although cheeky, was mostly a very cheerful and lovable little girl. Now she is just no!no!no!, cries when she wakes up, cries when she sleeps, cries and moans at everything ! It really makes me question my parenting methods.

Today there was another massive meltdown. It ended up with gung gung getting frustrated and angry. Mah mah was trying to save Saitaoha from my wrath but I still ended up carrying the wailing kid out of their house and straight home. I was really fed up that not only are her tantrums upsetting me, they are causing my parents to get upset and angsty with each other. Sometimes when I see my parents squabble. (99% to do with the kids) I feel terrible and horribly selfish. I doubt they would squabble if not for the grandkids. They’ve already had to raise four kids of their own, and I’m putting them through this again?!

I also feel sad that I’m blinded by Saitaoha’s attention seeking tantrums and not paying much attention to poor Saitaomei. Then there was a moment where ah Ma was singing ‘if you’re happy and you know it’ to Saitaomei in the car. Saitaoha was next to her and doing all the actions to the song. I saw her glance at Mah Mah and look resigned that no one was paying her any attention. My heart broke a little.

Saitaoha trying to open the freezer 😂. She knows the aiji is kept there. Oh my funny girl.

Oh hai my sweetie. I miss her.

She really likes sitting on bean bags.

Sigh I’m sure tomorrow will be a better day. Just restart and reboot again.

5 Responses to “Can I hit the restart button?”

  1. 1 iloveicecream March 28, 2018 at 11:14 pm

    I think I went through the same when I had Qq. Qe was absolutely horrid. I think it’s cos she couldn’t express how she felt. Crying/ tantrums was the easiest way out.
    It was so bad that the hubs tried to cane her!
    I think we tried to circumvent it by going out ALOT! Just to keep the elder one occupied and not trying to seek for our attention. Cos when we are out, we naturally will pay attention to the kids!
    I hope this period passes soon. The reset and restart button is a good choice!

  2. 3 etangy March 30, 2018 at 11:41 am

    Hugs! Even though my elder one is much older, I feel bad I have to split my attention! And the older one gets scolded so much especially having started primary one and I feel like I have split personality, one second getting angry, the other second having to smile at the innocent baby. But we love them both, so don’t forget that! And they are blessed to have a mama like you, having such internal struggle only shows how much love you have! 😘

    • 4 daitaoha April 2, 2018 at 9:56 pm

      I do the same thing too, scolding Saitaoha and then turning around to coo at the baby the next second. I find myself thinking I am crazy

  3. 5 etangy April 2, 2018 at 10:11 pm

    But we are not! Just different age demands different part of us. Haha self consolation. The elder one has benefited from our cooing before!

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March 2018



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